Home Truths

The column quoted below alludes to the recent NY Times article that overstated the number of women living alone, as it included girls as young as 15, a clear attempt to push the elite's feminist agenda. Recent post. That said, it's a very well argued essay in today's Tribune that states a few home truths:

To what, then, do we attribute women's discontent with marriage and relationships, and the fact that they initiate the vast majority of divorces? A new Woman's Day magazine poll found that 56 percent of married women would not or might not marry their husbands if they could choose again.

Nobody would dispute that, in selecting a mate, women are more discerning than men. This is an evolutionary necessity--a woman must carefully evaluate who is likely to remain loyal to her and protect and provide for her and her children. If a man and a woman go on a blind date and don't hit it off, the man will shrug and say "it went OK." The woman will give five reasons why he's not right for her.

Aside from a man beating up his wife or kids I happen to think marriage should be for life--how do those vows go? Some of the divorces some time ago were initiated by women who married young and thought better of it when feminism came along in the 70's. There is something to be said for independence, but a commitment to marriage, once made, is important as well, for families and for society. Feminists long ago veered into anti-male zealotry, which extended to being anti-family. It's no wonder few women these days would describe themselves as feminists. But the unfortunate legacy is there for many young women to view marriage as expendable, and the me-first, instant-gratification culture has supported that. The NY Times article continued the feminist mantra of who needs men, which has been dominant in the MSM for years.

It may be there is some pushback now, as the children of some of these broken marriages come of age, deal with their issues and make their own judgements. It could be the Roe Effect is starting to tip our culture toward valuing family. And some of the women themselves have regrets. Subjects that have been taboo for 20 years or more are being discussed---note also yesterday's NY Times magazine, "Is There a Post-Abortion Syndrome?"

And then there are bloggers now, who like to deliver a few home truths themselves.


UPDATE: Good column by Jeff Jacoby, via Townhall.com